I’ve gone through years of struggles—battling anxiety, bad habits, and a lack of direction. I spent years in therapy, coaching, and deep personal research. Growing up in a dysfunctional family of 11 members, living in poverty and emotional neglect, I was exposed to destructive habits like smoking cigarettes, cannabis, social media addiction, excessive video gaming, and chronic procrastination.
There came a point when enough was enough. That’s when I booked my first therapy sessions. Looking back, though, none of them were as impactful as the personalized coaching sessions I later took—seriously! Don’t get me wrong, therapy had its moments, but most of it felt kinda “meh.” Oddly enough, it was even more expensive than coaching.
In my experience, most therapists hadn’t lived through the habits I was dealing with. They understood them through theory and books, which is fine—but it’s different. Coaches like myself? We’ve lived it. We’ve felt the anxiety. We’ve wrestled with the lack of direction.
And here’s the crazy part: it didn’t take years. I only needed 12 hours of personalized coaching to truly transform my life. That’s right—not years… just 12 hours.
The truth is, the answers weren’t as complicated as I once thought. The world makes it seem that way, but in reality, overcoming social anxiety and breaking free from bad habits is absolutely possible.
Today, I can proudly say I no longer live with crippling anxiety or destructive habits. Instead, I feel alive, driven, and confident.
I’m not perfect—but really, who is?
I owe deep gratitude to the coaches, teachers, and authors who truly did their homework and helped me along this journey—Aziz Gazipura, Ellen Hendriksen, Dr. Robert Glover, Jon Kabat-Zinn, and many others. Without them, I wouldn’t have been able to break free from social anxiety and the bad habits that held me back for years.
If you’re reading this and you’re struggling—if you’re feeling hopeless—I want you to know this with all my heart: The solutions are out there, and they’re simpler than you think.
Don’t give up. You are not less than anyone. Your struggles—whether with anxiety, bad habits, or lack of direction—are human and completely solvable. You have more power than you can even imagine. Not only can you overcome them, but you can go far beyond them.
Wishing you all the best,
With love,
Peroz
FAQS
Yes, it is possible—especially when you're aware of what to expect after letting go: the emotions, the cravings, the discomfort. If you have the tools to ride the wave and stay present through the urges, then yes, you can absolutely do it.
How long does it take to be fully free of cravings after quitting smoking?
The answer is simple: as long as it takes. For some, it might be a few weeks of letting go and riding the wave; for others, it might take longer. What matters most is knowing how to surf the wave—if you do, you'll be okay.
There is always a point. Quitting smoking isn’t just about breaking a habit—it’s about rediscovering your strength and potential as a human being. Taking a stand for your health and relationships, even after decades, is a powerful act of self-respect. One day, you’ll look back and thank yourself for choosing to begin again.
Yes, it's completely normal to feel a mix of emotions—fear, shame, doubt—especially when a habit has been part of your life for so long. But the fact that you're here, reading this, also means there’s hope in you—maybe even a spark of excitement or self-love. That’s something to honor.
That’s 100% normal. Habits—especially long-standing ones—can resurface. The good news is, you’re not starting from scratch. You already have the tools. Go back to them—revisit your notes, review the PDFs, and remind yourself of what worked. And hey, you can always reach out to me too. You’ve got this.
Absolutely—you can use the same core tools. In fact, you may have already started applying them without realizing it. That said, every habit comes with its own set of beliefs, emotional hooks, and hidden lies. It helps to study each one specifically. And of course, you can always reach out to me for guidance tailored to those habits.
I’d answer that with a question—how long does it take to learn anything? It varies for everyone. For me, it took years because I had to search for the right tools and practices. If you have the right guidance, you can learn the basics in about 12 weeks, while true mastery can take 1-2 years. The key is commitment—being willing to test, practice, and even fail along the way.
Absolutely—100%. Social confidence is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned through practice, trial, and error. No matter your age or how long you've struggled, you can improve with the right mindset and consistent effort.
It's likely that something is blocking your progress. It could be that the tools you're using aren't effective, there are deeper internal resistances, or consistency has been an issue. Identifying and addressing these obstacles can help you break through and start seeing real change.
This is actually a great sign—it means you're capable of feeling socially at ease in some situations. Social anxiety often stems from unhelpful beliefs or habits. When anxiety shows up, it could be due to mental blocks or less effective patterns that still need to be addressed. The key is to identify what’s working and apply those strengths to the moments that feel more challenging.
I hear you—social anxiety can be painful and frustrating, especially when it holds you back from enjoying yourself, expressing who you are, and leaves you feeling horrible afterward. I’ve been there too, and I know how exhausting it can be. But I promise you, with the right tools and consistency, you will see progress. Be kind to yourself, take a breath, and keep going. You’ve got this.
As the saying goes, "Complexity is the enemy of execution, and therefore, the enemy of growth." The key to lasting social confidence is simple: consistently do the things your mind tells you that you can't—over and over again, step by step. Gradual exposure to discomfort rewires your brain, turning fear into ease.