Hello there! This is your Habit Coach, Peroz.
I’ve gone through years of struggle—battling anxiety, bad habits, and a deep sense of directionlessness. I spent years in therapy, coaching, and doing intensive personal research.
Growing up in a dysfunctional family of 11, surrounded by poverty and emotional neglect, I was exposed to destructive habits early on—smoking, cannabis, social media addiction, endless video gaming, and chronic procrastination.
Eventually, I hit a point where enough was enough. That’s when I booked my first therapy sessions. Looking back, though, none of them were as impactful as the personalized coaching I pursued later—seriously.
Don’t get me wrong—therapy had its moments. But most of it felt kind of meh.
In my experience, most therapists hadn’t actually lived through the habits I was facing. They understood them through theory and textbooks, which is fine—but it's just not the same. Coaches? They lived it. They felt the anxiety. They wrestled with the lack of direction.
And here’s the truth:
The answers weren’t as complicated as I once believed.
The world makes it seem that way—but overcoming social anxiety and breaking free from bad habits is absolutely possible.
Today, I can proudly say I no longer live with crippling anxiety or destructive habits. I feel alive, driven, and confident.
Sure—I’m not perfect. I still slip sometimes: sugary food, social media rabbit holes, overthinking. But those moments are smaller now. They don’t define me anymore. I’ve shed the weight of so many bad habits and outdated beliefs. And I feel immensely more alive and at ease.
I owe deep gratitude to the coaches, teachers, and authors who truly did the work—Aziz Gazipura, Ellen Hendriksen, Dr. Robert Glover, Jon Kabat-Zinn, and many others. Without them, I wouldn’t have broken free from the habits and anxiety that held me back for so long.
So if you’re reading this and you’re struggling—if you feel hopeless—I want you to hear this with all my heart:
The answers are out there. And they’re simpler than you think.
Don’t give up.
You are not less than anyone.
Your struggles—whether with anxiety, bad habits, or lack of direction—are human and completely solvable.
You have more power than you can even imagine.
Not only can you overcome them—you can transcend them.
Wishing you all the best,
With love,
Peroz
FAQS
Is it possible to go cold turkey after years of smoking?
Yes, it is possible—especially when you're aware of what to expect after letting go: the emotions, the cravings, the negative thoughts, and the discomfort. If you have the tools to ride the wave and stay present through the urges, then yes, you can absolutely do it.
How long does it take to be fully free of cravings after quitting smoking?
The answer is simple: as long as it takes. For some, it might be a few weeks of letting go and riding the wave; for others, it might take longer. What matters most is knowing how to surf the wave—if you do, you'll be okay.
How long does it take to become socially confident?
I’d answer that with a question—how long does it take to learn anything? It varies for everyone. For me, it took years because I had to search for the right tools and practices. If you have the right guidance, you can learn the basics in about 12 weeks, while true mastery can take 1+ years. The key is commitment—being willing to test, practice, and even fail along the way.
I have never felt socially confident. Is it possible for me to get better?
Absolutely—100%. Social confidence is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned through practice, trial, and error. No matter your age or how long you've struggled, you can improve with the right mindset and consistent effort.
I've been working on social anxiety for years, but I don't see any major progress.
It's likely that something is blocking your progress. It could be that the tools you're using aren't effective, there are deeper internal resistances, or consistency has been an issue. Identifying and addressing these obstacles can help you break through and start seeing real change.
I feel great at some social occasions, but other times I experience intense anxiety. What’s going on?
This is actually a great sign—it means you're capable of feeling socially at ease in some situations. Social anxiety often stems from unhelpful beliefs or habits. When anxiety shows up, it could be due to mental blocks or less effective patterns that still need to be addressed. The key is to identify what’s working and apply those strengths to the moments that feel more challenging.
Can I just get rid of my crippling social anxiety now? I'm sick of it.
I hear you—social anxiety can be painful and frustrating, especially when it holds you back from enjoying yourself, expressing who you are, and leaves you feeling horrible afterward. I’ve been there too, and I know how exhausting it can be. But I promise you, with the right tools and consistency, you will see progress. Be kind to yourself, take a breath, and keep going. You’ve got this.
How can I become socially confident for good?
As the saying goes, "Complexity is the enemy of execution, and therefore, the enemy of growth." The key to lasting social confidence is simple: consistently do the things your mind tells you that you can't—over and over again, step by step. Gradual exposure to discomfort rewires your brain, turning fear into ease.